“Mutuality in Love” By Pastor P.T.Mammen
Scripture Reference: Jude 20-25
Today we will explore another practical application – Mutuality.
Mutuality in Marriage. In the marriage relationship, mutuality involves face-to-face interaction that includes caring, loving, co-operation, empathy, respect, friendship, comfort, help, and communication (both verbal and non-verbal). Mutuality in marriage is being open to understanding the wishes, goals, hopes, and dreams of one another. If you are in a marriage where mutuality is a value, you both seek what is best for one another. Mutuality is the way you positively relate to one another. A lack of mutual sharing and mutual decision making can weaken your marriage relationship. If you are focused more on "me" rather than "you and me" or if you don't have a shared vision of your marriage, your relationship will suffer because you won't have the interdependence and connection with one another that mutuality can provide. Communication skills: Although there are times in every marriage when one of you is talking and the other isn't listening, don't let that become an everyday situation. If you want to connect more with one another, try these communication and listening methods. If your spouse wants to communicate with you: 1. Stop what you are doing so that you can give your spouse your full attention. 2. When talking with your spouse, maintain eye contact. 3. When you don't want to be distracted while talking with one another, choose a neutral location to have your conversation. 4. It is important to remember to listen to one another without interrupting. 5. Don't jump to conclusions about what your spouse is saying. 6. If you need clarification of what your spouse has said, ask questions, but don't point fingers. 7. Respond without being critical of what your spouse has said. 8. Be affirmative and supportive. 9. Decide together to make time to have alone time with each other on a regular basis -- preferably once a week.
What is your dream? We learn that with a combination of self-confidence found through faith in Jesus Christ, and an understanding of the other’s psychology, and a refusal to settle for less than one deserves, ONE CAN find real, fulfilling love and have the healthy relationship one has always dreamed of.
May be a new epiphany: The central problem in all of one’s relationships is that he/she had been deluded enough to believe that a man/woman is going to “complete me.”
Pinning all of one’s hopes on one person, expecting that he/she is going to fulfill my every need and make me happy was putting unfair pressure and unrealistic expectations on him/her. In other words, you are setting each relationship up for failure.
Through the confidence-building exercises and the affirmations in the God’s word, we learn how to appreciate our self-worth and identify which of my needs was my own responsibility to fulfill.
Today we will explore another practical application – Mutuality.
Mutuality in Marriage. In the marriage relationship, mutuality involves face-to-face interaction that includes caring, loving, co-operation, empathy, respect, friendship, comfort, help, and communication (both verbal and non-verbal). Mutuality in marriage is being open to understanding the wishes, goals, hopes, and dreams of one another. If you are in a marriage where mutuality is a value, you both seek what is best for one another. Mutuality is the way you positively relate to one another. A lack of mutual sharing and mutual decision making can weaken your marriage relationship. If you are focused more on "me" rather than "you and me" or if you don't have a shared vision of your marriage, your relationship will suffer because you won't have the interdependence and connection with one another that mutuality can provide. Communication skills: Although there are times in every marriage when one of you is talking and the other isn't listening, don't let that become an everyday situation. If you want to connect more with one another, try these communication and listening methods. If your spouse wants to communicate with you: 1. Stop what you are doing so that you can give your spouse your full attention. 2. When talking with your spouse, maintain eye contact. 3. When you don't want to be distracted while talking with one another, choose a neutral location to have your conversation. 4. It is important to remember to listen to one another without interrupting. 5. Don't jump to conclusions about what your spouse is saying. 6. If you need clarification of what your spouse has said, ask questions, but don't point fingers. 7. Respond without being critical of what your spouse has said. 8. Be affirmative and supportive. 9. Decide together to make time to have alone time with each other on a regular basis -- preferably once a week.
What is your dream? We learn that with a combination of self-confidence found through faith in Jesus Christ, and an understanding of the other’s psychology, and a refusal to settle for less than one deserves, ONE CAN find real, fulfilling love and have the healthy relationship one has always dreamed of.
May be a new epiphany: The central problem in all of one’s relationships is that he/she had been deluded enough to believe that a man/woman is going to “complete me.”
Pinning all of one’s hopes on one person, expecting that he/she is going to fulfill my every need and make me happy was putting unfair pressure and unrealistic expectations on him/her. In other words, you are setting each relationship up for failure.
Through the confidence-building exercises and the affirmations in the God’s word, we learn how to appreciate our self-worth and identify which of my needs was my own responsibility to fulfill.
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